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By Elizabeth Anne Hull

Elizabeth Anne Hull

Elizabeth Anne Hull

Nearly a year before Fred died, I wrote to a young friend who had recently become engaged in a same-sex relationship. It was in response to finding out (for the first time; I previously had no idea) that my friend was a lesbian. She told me of the difficulties she and her fiancée expected waiting for the then as-yet unannounced Supreme Court ruling on the unconstitutionality of the California law which had been sanctioned by an expensive referendum (financed in large part by the Mormons, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints).

Before I wrote my response, I discussed the news with Fred, knowing of his interest in same-sex relationships, a situation casually thrown into Gateway which had evoked a continuing fan response that always surprised him.

My message follows:

Congratulations on finding someone to love, and I hope you are able to get married without a big hassle.

However, having to wait may not be such a bad thing, anyway. How long will it take you to finish your education? Most people get married too quickly, without really knowing what they are committing to. It takes time to reveal multiple facts of a personality, and that process usually can’t be hurried. We always want to show our best faces to those we admire and care about, and hide any shameful habits or character flaws.

There are questions that we don’t know we need the answers to right away. Like, for example: what’s your own family life like? How do you get along with siblings, cousins, co-workers, neighbors, etc. What religion (or lack thereof) do you embrace? What is your political philosophy? (Fred and I dated steadily for seven years and traveled together for periods of time, but I didn’t learn till after we were already married that he favors the death penalty, while I definitely do not. It just never came up till later, while we were watching a trial on TV unfolding.)

Do you enjoy vicarious violence — say, like football? What’s your idea of the perfect vacation (do you like to keep going back to one spot or prefer to see some exotic place if possible? Do you like fine food, and/or pretentious dining? Do you like roughing it or camping? Are you adventurous in tying new experiences? Meeting new people?

And people will change over time. Young people can sometimes change faster than older people, but we all do develop. Quirks that were charming at one time can become very annoying later.

So keep in touch, and let me know if and when and where the wedding will happen.

With some apprehension, because he nearly always found something to dislike about my writing, I showed Fred my note. But this time, he just said, “Good letter.” And later, “I notice you never even mentioned the same-sex hurdles. Do you want to write something like this for my blog?”

I wrote it that way because I believe any marriage has its challenges. In fact, just living with anyone can have similar problems.

Long before Fred and I were married, Judy Merril once told me, “Everbody’s crazy in one way or another. We can’t see our own craziness, but we need to look closely at our love object. The most important thing to find out is, in what way is this person crazy? And then to decide whether or not we can, or want to, live with that craziness.”



Elizabeth Anne Hull

Elizabeth Anne Hull

Betty’s next public appearances will be at Capricon XXXVI, Feb. 11–14 in Wheeling, Ill. See her at these events:

  • Autographing
    Friday, 11:30 a.m. to 12:15 p.m., Autograph Table

  • Political Propaganda in SF
    Friday, 5:30 p.m. to 7 p.m., Birch B
    Science fiction and fantasy literature often has politics at the core of the story, and where there’s politics, there’s propaganda. What stories have done it well? What influence does the “real world” have upon authors in this aspect of the genre?
    With Amanda Daly, Chris Gerrib, Gail Z. Martin and Isabel Schechter.

  • Beginning, Middle, and End
    Saturday, 11:30 a.m. to 1 p.m., Willow
    Does structure matter when telling a story? Should there be a clearly defined beginning, middle, and end? Is it really needed? Can the end come first, or in the middle?
    With Tim Akers, Elizabeth Bear, Richard Chwedyk and Phyllis Eisenstein.

  • Just One Little Change
    Saturday, 2:30 p.m. to 4 p.m. Botanic Garden B
    How minor changes in the history of your world can drastically alter it and create alternative universes, dimensions, and realities.
    With Dale Cozort and Steven H. Silver.

—the blog team

From the blog team:
Betty Hull

This weekend, Betty is attending Windycon 42 this weekend in Lombard, Illinois. The convention runs from Friday November 13th to Sunday the 15th.

She is appearing at these events:

Friday 6:00 pm
Anniversaries (Lilac B): 2015 is the 150th Anniversary of Alice in Wonderland, the 50th anniversary of Dune, the 45th anniversary of Apollo 13, and the 30th anniversary of Back to the Future. Why do some books and films deserve to be recognized on their anniversaries and others don’t? What is the cultural significance of long ago literature and events on our modern community?

Saturday 10:00 am
A Look Back at Fred Pohl (Lilac A): Frederik Pohl was a mainstay of science fiction from its beginning, and especially in Chicago, where he lived for so long. His presence is still missed. Michael Page has just published a look at
Fred’s life and work. Come and hear about the Fred Pohl you knew, or didn’t know.

Saturday 11:00 am
Synopsis vs. Review vs. Critique (Lilac A): A discussion about the differences between the different types of reviews, what they are trying to do, and who the audience is for each. When is each type of review appropriate?

Saturday 4:00 pm-4:25
Reading (Boardroom)

Sunday 11:00
Autographing (Hallway)

From the blog team:

Elizabeth Anne Hull

    Elizabeth Anne Hull

This weekend, Betty is attending ICON 40 in Iowa City, and appearing at these events:

Friday, 9 p.m.
“Harassment in Fandom and Life”

Saturday, 10 a.m.
“Cosplay Is Not Consent”

Saturday, 7 p.m.
“Is There Such a Thing as Being ‘Well Read’ in This Day?”

From the blog team:

Elizabeth Anne Hull

    Elizabeth Anne Hull

Safe travels to all you fen headed for the World Science Fiction Convention, Sasquan, in Spokane this week! Betty’s winging her way there, too. (Sadly, the rest of the blog team will have to follow con highlights from Chicagoland via Facebook.)

Those of you lucky enough to attend Sasquan, be sure to stop by and see Betty at her autographing, Sunday from 11 to 11:45 a.m. in Exhibit Hall B, and take a look at this panel:


Not Always Far Apart: The Mainstream Intersection with SF,” at 11 a.m. Thursday in Bays 111C, with Elizabeth Anne Hull, Robert Silverberg, Rich Horton, Rick Wilber and Gary K. Wolfe:

“It used to be that science fiction was considered the outlier. Now, it seems to be part of the mainstream. Is this good for science fiction? Is science fiction still a long ways away from mainstream topics?”

Sounds fascinating! (Not as fascinating as this year’s Business Meeting will likely be, perhaps, but no one there’s apt to start throwing punches, either. Stay safe!)

Prof. Betty will spend Thursday afternoon on a busman’s holiday, as one of the coaches in the writers’ workshop. If you’re an entrant, they probably told you when and where it is.

Have fun, everyone! Don’t let the Kolektinbugs bite … much.

Elizabeth Anne Hull

Elizabeth Anne Hull

Here’s the schedule for Elizabeth Anne Hull’s upcoming appearances.